Updated: Jun 9
Since I was a little child, I have always needed to understand the big picture of life. So I used to ask deep metaphysical questions to grown-ups. Sounds unreal? Ask my parents. By the time I was 5 years old, I would compel my olds to give me detailed answers on such topics as:
“Why are we here?”
“Why is there a moon?”
“What’s the strongest between a scorpion and a tarantula?” …
As I grew up, these very existential questions remained in me. To some degree. As much as I got some of my questions answered (I now have a better idea what the moon is about), or lost interest in finding out about some of them (scorpion vs tarantula, may the smartest win!), I have always kept one in mind: “Why are we here?”. Over the years, this question evolved into “what makes one truly feel alive?” and “shouldn’t everyone aim at making a living from their dream job?”
I read many articles and I watched a handful of TedTalks about what it takes to live from your dream job. Some argue that taking a leap of faith and listening to your heart is the best thing to do, because ...well… it feels good! Others warn against the disastrous results of mixing passion and work, or aiming to live from your dream job is a naïve thing to do.
This whole host of arguments had left me somewhat perplexed and without a clear answer. Finally, after a time of reflection though, it hit me. What better response could I ever get than one coming from the only people that objectively reflect on the whole meaning of their life, for the very reason that they are about to leave it behind them?
Going after your dreams is of utmost importance, according to the dying
I made some research, and I came across an article referring to the main regrets of dying people. Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse from Australia and author of the book “Regrets of the dying," spent several years sharing her patients' last three to twelve weeks. When questioned about any regrets they had about their life, several themes surfaced repeatedly, the main one being: I wish I had dared to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
She writes specifically: “Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”
I finally had my answer.
Why aren’t more people living their dream job?
According to Simon Sinek (“Start with Why”), studies show that over 80 percent of Americans do not have their dream job. Let me emphasiz